“My goal is to lose 20 pounds”
“My goal is to read one book a week”
“I’m going to volunteer so much this year!”
“I’m going to save money and pay down debt.”
All of these might enrich or enhance your life in some way, but did you know sometimes making New Years resolutions can be counterproductive? While New Year’s resolutions can be a positive catalyst for change, it’s essential to approach them with caution and flexibility. Read on to find out why.
1. The Research Speaks for Itself
Research shows that many people set unrealistic goals when making New Year’s resolutions. They aim for dramatic changes in a short period, which can lead to disappointment and frustration when these goals are not met. This sets up a cycle of failure that can impact self-esteem and motivation.
According to a study by the University of Scranton, only about 8% of people successfully achieve their New Year’s resolutions. Unrealistic expectations are a significant factor in this low success rate.
2. Negative Self-Talk
When clients set resolutions and struggle to achieve them, it often leads to negative self-talk. They may berate themselves for their perceived lack of willpower or discipline. This negative self-talk can be detrimental to mental health and self-esteem. The American Psychological Association reports that the pressure to succeed with New Year’s resolutions can lead to increased stress and anxiety.
3. All-or-Nothing Thinking
New Year’s resolutions often promote an all-or-nothing mindset. Clients may believe that if they can’t stick to their resolutions perfectly, they should give up entirely. This black-and-white thinking can hinder progress and make them feel like failures. A more flexible approach to goal-setting is likely to be more effective.
4. External Pressure
The external pressure to make New Year’s resolutions can be overwhelming. Social media, advertisements, and peer influence can create a sense of obligation to participate in this tradition. This pressure can lead us to set resolutions that we’re not genuinely motivated to achieve.
5. Dopamine, man!
Often, talking about the New Years resolution gives us more of a dopamine hit than the accomplishment of achieving the goal itself. When we share our goals out loud, research shows that we’re actually more likely to give up before we’re even halfway there.
If you’d like more information, check out the following blogs:
Very Well Mind – Why New Years Resolutions Fail
Forbes – New Years Resolutions Statistics
Huberman Lab – The Science of Setting and Achieving Goals
If you’re struggling with your resolutions or their effects on your mental health, don’t hesitate to reach out to us at Bright Spot Therapy in Farmington Hills, Michigan by calling us at 248.296.3104. Our therapists can help you develop a flexible approach and prioritize your values when it comes to the life you want to lead.
